A lot of people are falling into "value scorpion" in both sexes: when the other party is friendly, it feels that it is worth being loved, and when the opponent becomes a little cold, the self denial starts. In fact, the value of one person is not defined by the attitude of others. Your beauty will not fade by your opponent's ignorance.
1. the self value derives from the firmness of the mind
The real value of oneself is derived from the clear recognition and acceptance of oneself. You have your own strengths and short plates, and have independent thought and pursuit, and these qualities constitute the only one in common. There is no need to inflate by the praise of the other party, and there is no need to subjugate the opponent's coldness.
Your value is already precipitated in the process of self growth, and does not change easily by the occurrence of relationships. If your heart is firm enough, you can cope with each other's differences and changes in calm feelings without having to struggle in feelings.
2. the relationship is equal and begins with no dependence on others' perception of value
The essence of amphoterism is not an "onhole" but one is an equal dialogue of the soul. The person who entrusts his worth to the attitude of the other party tends to fall into the "sluggish type" which suppresses his real needs according to the preference of the partner and tries to obtain the approval of the partner by compromise. However, the balance has collapsed.
The "sense of value" which depends on is because it is weak after all. The pattern of good companions is to maintain both the value sense of Independence: you appreciate my flashing points, I respect your uniqueness, and we are attracted to each other, but not tied to each other. The other party must add flowers instead of straw to save lives.
Your opponent's misunderstanding and coldness will not destroy your perception of yourself. It is not necessary to prove oneself through the attitude of the other party, and can keep calm and self-esteem in the relation, and do not regret oneself, and do not forgive the partner, and can grow the feeling naturally in the equally respected soil.
Summary
In both sexes: the most precious figure: I will gladly accept when you love me; When you don't love me, I still love myself. Your value is hidden in your scholarship, structure, goodness and persistence, hiding in love for your life and adherence to yourself.
No need to ask for permission outside. At first you can grow up and grow root, and you can really attract people who can treasure you naturally and you can treasure you. This relationship can be stronger and longer because each other has a separate value.
1. the self value derives from the firmness of the mind
The real value of oneself is derived from the clear recognition and acceptance of oneself. You have your own strengths and short plates, and have independent thought and pursuit, and these qualities constitute the only one in common. There is no need to inflate by the praise of the other party, and there is no need to subjugate the opponent's coldness.
Your value is already precipitated in the process of self growth, and does not change easily by the occurrence of relationships. If your heart is firm enough, you can cope with each other's differences and changes in calm feelings without having to struggle in feelings.
2. the relationship is equal and begins with no dependence on others' perception of value
The essence of amphoterism is not an "onhole" but one is an equal dialogue of the soul. The person who entrusts his worth to the attitude of the other party tends to fall into the "sluggish type" which suppresses his real needs according to the preference of the partner and tries to obtain the approval of the partner by compromise. However, the balance has collapsed.
The "sense of value" which depends on is because it is weak after all. The pattern of good companions is to maintain both the value sense of Independence: you appreciate my flashing points, I respect your uniqueness, and we are attracted to each other, but not tied to each other. The other party must add flowers instead of straw to save lives.
Your opponent's misunderstanding and coldness will not destroy your perception of yourself. It is not necessary to prove oneself through the attitude of the other party, and can keep calm and self-esteem in the relation, and do not regret oneself, and do not forgive the partner, and can grow the feeling naturally in the equally respected soil.
Summary
In both sexes: the most precious figure: I will gladly accept when you love me; When you don't love me, I still love myself. Your value is hidden in your scholarship, structure, goodness and persistence, hiding in love for your life and adherence to yourself.
No need to ask for permission outside. At first you can grow up and grow root, and you can really attract people who can treasure you naturally and you can treasure you. This relationship can be stronger and longer because each other has a separate value.