Good love has not been the one-sided dependence that "you are responsible for raising money and raising the family, and I am as beautiful as a flower", but two people, like the climbers who accompanied them, rose on their backs, but stretched out in a steep way, and with their shoulders in the flat road, they laughed and laughed.
1.A growth loving affection: not one another but one another
The growth type affection has no idea that "who can't be separated from me", and there is only motivation that "I want to be with you and I want to be a better one". Like writers, they cultivated deeply in the field of literature, together with each other, in order to support each other, and to maintain independent creative spaces, which corresponded mentally to each other, and eventually became the cult of the literary circles.
Such affection is not possession, but sharing, not a binding, but a rotor -- you want to pursue the business, and I will sweep away the grief for you; I want to explore the interest, you light up the lights to advance for me, and the two will nourish each other in the growth and become bottomed to prevent affection.
2. dependency relations: looks calm but actually suffocates
Possessed love is like flowers in the greenhouse, one is too dependent on the other nourishment, losing the ability to grow independently, and the other is gradually tired in the long payment. It looks like a partner is considered to be a "refuge" of a life, abandon a job, alienate a friend, and be entrusted to the expectation of all life.
When the addiction becomes a habit, the claim becomes a sucker: you must conceive to my feelings, you should satisfy my needs, you must not have your own private space... When the dependent "port" fluctuates, the whole relationship swings. The real love is not looking for a person, but to protect the rain together by two people, reliance on each other in independence, and achieve each other in growth.
Summary
Good love is the two-way career of two independent souls, saying, "I am good, but you are better off." Instead of stagnating each other, you can shed two people in the time and leave your own corners gently. When love becomes a nourishment of growth rather than a cage of bondage, such relationships surpass the trifles of Shiba oil, and are more robust and warm in years.
1.A growth loving affection: not one another but one another
The growth type affection has no idea that "who can't be separated from me", and there is only motivation that "I want to be with you and I want to be a better one". Like writers, they cultivated deeply in the field of literature, together with each other, in order to support each other, and to maintain independent creative spaces, which corresponded mentally to each other, and eventually became the cult of the literary circles.
Such affection is not possession, but sharing, not a binding, but a rotor -- you want to pursue the business, and I will sweep away the grief for you; I want to explore the interest, you light up the lights to advance for me, and the two will nourish each other in the growth and become bottomed to prevent affection.
2. dependency relations: looks calm but actually suffocates
Possessed love is like flowers in the greenhouse, one is too dependent on the other nourishment, losing the ability to grow independently, and the other is gradually tired in the long payment. It looks like a partner is considered to be a "refuge" of a life, abandon a job, alienate a friend, and be entrusted to the expectation of all life.
When the addiction becomes a habit, the claim becomes a sucker: you must conceive to my feelings, you should satisfy my needs, you must not have your own private space... When the dependent "port" fluctuates, the whole relationship swings. The real love is not looking for a person, but to protect the rain together by two people, reliance on each other in independence, and achieve each other in growth.
Summary
Good love is the two-way career of two independent souls, saying, "I am good, but you are better off." Instead of stagnating each other, you can shed two people in the time and leave your own corners gently. When love becomes a nourishment of growth rather than a cage of bondage, such relationships surpass the trifles of Shiba oil, and are more robust and warm in years.